How to teach a child kindness and whether it is necessary to unconditionally support everyone around him are questions that were answered in a conversation with Pravda. ru answered by a systemic family psychologist at the Center for Family Psychology Tatiana Potemkina.
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Psychologists consider indulgence or unconditional support of everyone around them to be the wrong approach to “lessons” of kindness.
“We are talking about everyday kindness, about compassion. Understanding how your actions affect another person and understanding what I am doing here is appropriate, it is possible, this is probably the principle of developing kindness. That is, greater awareness in one’s own actions and how your actions affect others,” the expert expressed her opinion.
It is better to teach a child kindness not in theory, but in practice. For example, involve people in need or loved ones in helping.
“It’s very good for some children, especially teenagers, when they have the opportunity to work as volunteers in orphanages, in hospitals… This is such a rare activity. And when you can help your own grandmother, your own sister, your own mother, your own dad, and even more so, when someone is in a vulnerable position, when someone is sick or there is some kind of trouble in the family, then you can explain that now your mother is really sick or your sister is sick, our task is to support and help,” says the psychologist.
To prevent kindness from being perceived by children as a sign of weakness, Potemkina advises explaining to the child that people get pleasure and joy from helping others.